And this is where the ‘LOVE IS…’ was born.

This is the story of why I think emotions and feelings should be expressed correctly.

As a result of self-development and my own life experience, I realized that everyone has a different value system and ‘rules’ of self-expression. Some people do not express their feelings at all because they are simply afraid to be hurt. And this stops them from having a fulfilled and extraordinary life. We hide behind a fake persona with behavior, pain, and assumptions. For many people, it is very hard to express their emotions.

Love/connection is one of the 6 main human needs. We all need to show and to be shown love.

My Dad was an alcoholic and always away from the family for long periods of time. That meant there was little opportunity for him to show his love. For the first 34 years of my life, I thought he does not love me at all. My mom and dad divorced up when I was 15. After that, my dad never called me. The only communication between me and my father was 2 messages a year to ‘celebrate’ my birthday and Xmas. After some time Because of the big pain of ‘not being loved’ feeling, I decided not to talk to my father at all, because it gives less pain. But the feelings and pain were always there.

Following a life coaching seminar about relationships, I was inspired by one person’s story to write a letter to my Dad, because I wanted to share my true feelings and release pain. I was to find meaning in my dad’s actions and this showed me that my dad had actually loved me, he just did not know how to express it correctly. Also, I realized one simple thing, that if my father had not been the person he was, my life could have gone a very different direction and I would never come to England and be the person I am today.

What did I say in that letter? Firstly, I thanked him for the life he gave to me because this is what pushed me to seek the truth of what life and love are. I showed my appreciation and forgiveness to his ways of self-expression and non-expression. And then to my delight, for the first time ever in my life, I heard the 3 most cherished words a daughter could hear from a father; ‘I love you’. These words from my dad after 34 years of living in the darkness and pain were life-changing. Since that day the relationship between me and my dad has developed day by day. We started to call each other and tell things we have never told each other before. This is why it’s so important to understand and correctly express your own feelings. Instead of running away from them, it’s vital to be grateful and appreciate other people’s feelings and life experiences.

It could have turned out very differently and I would never have known how my father loved me.

From that day I went to church and lit the candle to thank God for all that happened. This is where ‘Love Is..’ candle originated. From a place of pain and learning, I created meaning and found a new purpose. ‘Love is…’ embodies the power of expressing your emotions so that you can transform a relationship and share the true feelings you have for another person.

My message to the world is that all people should strive to understand the other’s intention not from their actions, but from their real inner feelings, even though they might hide them. Many people find it hard to express love to others as it might feel uncomfortable. The quotes on the candles show different meanings of love. You can choose one of them the most suitable for you, or even create your own. Beautiful design, quality of the product, natural wax, and variety of fragrances help add more value to your ‘expression of love’.

One more thing that I would like you to take from the candles is that they become your daily affirmation. You become whatever you hear about yourself and whatever you see every day. When you read the quote on the candle you choose for yourself or for your loved one, what you want to attract in your life. Now is the time to express your feelings. As the story of mine and my father has shown… it’s never too late.…